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Jan 20, 2025, 09:18 AM
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Member Since: Oct 2004
Location: Kentucky, USA
Posts: 25,075
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Originally Posted by Wherehaveigone26
Forget I said anything - seems I am the bad one here. Yes, the bread was for his meal. It”s just an example of anything I want is not complied with. So he lives his life in the basement and I live mine above ground forever. Until one of us dies. No biggie.
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This example didn't "make you the bad one". What it shows up is that you are fed up way beyond the bread & probably deeper than not being "complied with". When we get fed up, we let it out until we have had enough. Only then is when we try to really do something about it.
I let a bad marriage go for way too long & the last 13 of the 33 were #@[[ before I was finally able to leave. We feel trapped when they can't/won't change & the behavior is something we can no longer tolerate. Living in the same house even if separated is very stressful. I get it, but I also look back at the last 13 years when I was living married & in the house with him....my tolerance was zero & I became as abusive as he did just in a different way because I had enough & at that time there was no way out. That is not a good place to be in. When I finally got out, I was so surprised what peace & happiness really felt like even though he caused me some major legal issues I am still dealing with after the divorce.
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