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Old Jan 23, 2025, 06:08 AM
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Originally Posted by Waterbear View Post
Sadly I agree with my therapist that virtual probably wouldn't work for me. A lot of the time I can't face being seen by her, and can't talk, instead I write things down. And it would be completely different and I really don't know how I would manage that. I did consider giving it a go, but i didn't in the end today.

It felt a bit like guilt tripping to me, too, and that's what upset me I think. I tend to think bigger picture, and if I went in sick, she would likely get sick and then might have to cancel more sessions which would lose her more money. Or, if she decided to keep working, she could give it to other people who then might cancel, this losing more money too. Losing one client for one session seemed the best solution to me, but I don't see why I should pay when I'm just trying to be considerate and not get other people sick. I don't feel poorly enough to be off sick from work, but I know in therapy you can't really keep your distance so much, so it's easier to transmit colds. So difficult to know what to do!
Yeah, I personally think it is unfair that your therapist has essentially put this all on you to decide. She offered to not charge you a cancellation fee but then had to mention how she would be losing out. I don't think it is okay to offer you that but then try and make you feel guilty about it. You were trying to do her a favour by being honest and now she has essentially just encouraged you to go to sessions when you're sick in the future. I would probably just agree to go halves as that seems like a reasonable compromise. I would also encourage you to go to your next session and discuss all this with her. It might be weird and awkward but hey, that's therapy lol.
Thanks for this!
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