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valexand said:
But can anyone explain why he isn't talking to me?

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Hi valexand.

I'm so sorry that this little boy in mans clothes made you feel so used. But like sabby says what doesn't kills us makes us stronger...but be careful of cynicism,,,most men are good men who have a clearer perspective and think more often with the big head...

But to answer your question,,if I was to guess,,,somewhere in his past there was a woman that made him feel warm and safe. It may have been his Mother but it may have not...This woman fulfilled him in a moment when being fulfilled was critical. Probably early grammar school. Then she went away,,quickly...with no hope of any compromise...

This illusion will be with him until he understands what it is and will use woman in hope of finding that feeling again. But also not trusting it when it arrives. Sex is like that...big highs and quick lows...The intimacy is far different...that requires commitment...

Like chasing a high...forever...

But of course,,this is just a guess...

Lenny