Hi Lost,

I'm sorry you're dealing with all of this.

I understand how finding room can be a struggle. Having more than one session a week helps me with that some (I can't recall whether that's an option for you, even for a one-time extra session). But even then, we can be in the midst of working through a topic when something else happens in my life that feels more urgent. I tend to switch to whatever feels most urgent/pressing to me at the moment, thinking we'll circle back around to the earlier topic later.

But it can depend--I do sometimes continue with the earlier topic or at least express that I want to come back to it later--that it's not "done." I do find it can help to write down what I want to talk about. To have a list that I can go back to later, to not let something drop.

What feels most urgent for you right now? Is there a way you can sort of talk about both at once? Something that both R and the other backup T I saw last month, E, have done at the start of session is to say something like, "What do you want to try to accomplish today?" Or "What do you hope to come out of today's session with?" Which can be difficult to answer on the spot! (And my answers tend to be, "Uh, I'm not sure...Maybe [thing x]? Or this other things?")

But I think you meet on Thursdays, so maybe if you try to think about that before the session, it could help. Maybe journal about it. Think about what could be most helpful to you right now. Do you feel more of a need to finish (or work on finishing) the earlier conversation? Or to address the most recent loss? Or some mix of both? Maybe you just need to start talking and see where you go?

Hope this is helpful in some way and also that your session is helpful tomorrow.