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Originally Posted by LostOnTheTrail
Thanks LT,
My instinctive response to your question is that the way I'm feeling about Julio's death feels disproportionate.
It's OK for me to mourn Steve because I knew him, even if we weren't intimately close...
Finding out that Julio was here all the time and that he's now gone has knocked me for six.
I thought confirmation that it wasn't self-inflicted would help, but I'm still bewildered by it, and more than a little frustrated by that.
Thirty minutes is not long enough to know somebody, and feel like this.
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That seems like what you need to talk about, that maybe you don't feel you have the right to have not known him long, but are reacting this way. Maybe it's about what you missed with him, the thought of what you could have had, if you'd known he was local? I think that's a very valid thing to grieve. Though really, any grief is valid.