You cannot deal with these waves when you are weighed down with guilt. The past can be a curse, even if it no longer exists, it only exists if it is carried by our minds into every present moment.
The consequences of the past are real, there is no doubt about that, but carrying the guilt from the past destroys one’s ability to cope with the present, and makes change seem impossible.
How have people on this forum tackled the difficult issue of guilt? How have we declawed regret?
I’ll think on it and post if you are interested to hear. Not everyone is looking for advice, so feel free to let me know if I should keep it to myself