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eskielover · Feb 03, 2025, 08:56 PM

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And it's also me wondering if at any time any degree of realization popped into her head that said, "Wow... I've really blown it. I've wrecked my relationships with my kids, I've caused a lot of financial hardship, and I left a comfortable home with a man that looked after a ton of stuff for me."

I have no contact with my ex but my adult daughter does. She knows the facts of what has happened over the last 17 years vs the lies her dad has told her. I am so happy in the life I have now with my farm, my animals & the awesome community I live in (like you are). It was fascinating in a conversation with my daughter awhile back, she sounded disgusted at him & commented to me that he is full of hate & anger. Probably because he lost everything he had that he wanted instead of agreeing to the divorce. Think he thought not giving up the things would get me to stay instead of walking away. Not sure he really understands the underlying reasons of his hate & anger or that he ever will. Not my problem. Sadly her dad may become her problem to deal with in his older age. She (& I think he had had cognative issues for many years). We can never know what or why they think the way they do because they think with broken minds that we can never understand nor would we really want to.

Keep up your positive outlook on your life with your kids. It will pay off in the end.

On the topic of court, the loan holder could do nothing about getting my name off the loan. Told my lawyer that it was my ex's responsibility to demand a refinance from the investor & that it will have to be a civil case. Over $10,000 & I am no closer to a resolution than I was in 2020 when I found out my name was still on the loan. I gave my lawyer a strong statement that I would not pay them money for them to try & get my ex to do anything legally. They can write a demand letter to the investor but if it comes to a civil case it is all out war, me & my law firm against them ALL (& who knows how much more in legal costs). The only do over I would wish for was cancelling the wedding when I knew I should in 1975. Would have saved me 50 years of headaches.