I know you didn’t mean it that way but just a commentary: not every single/divorced/separated woman spends her time in bars drinking and getting into drama with men lol

None of my girlfriends live this way and most are single. Only a few, including me, are married

I don’t think it’s single versus married difference but rather just a life style. Ton of married people live this way. Personally my life style never changed regardless if I was single or married.

Honestly if your wife wanted to get a divorce, well it’s not against the law. The issue is how she did it. Moved out with no warning and abandon her kids. No arrangements were made about taking care of children. Not helping to raise kids. Not seeing kids. Not making arrangements about houses. Not behaving decently through separation. Not respecting her soon to be ex. She did everything in such an unacceptable evil manner