Wherehaveigone, like others have mentioned, we don’t have the ability to judge right or wrong from your example, and other examples would also just be distractions from the root cause of the unhappiness.
NovaBlaze mentioned that you and your husband should talk about the unhappiness that has overtaken your relationship, it can feel daunting, and doesn’t always work the first time around but it is the best way to figure out wether this marriage is worth keeping.

Passive aggressive behaviour is just awful for one’s well being, I recall that part of my marriage and the inner narratives that festered in my mind because of the lack of any actual communication of the real problems plaguing us.
In the void of knowledge I conjured up scenarios of her thoughts and intents and none of them were good and she was doing the same about me.
It’s like we were living two separate lives in the close proximity of what is supposed to be an intimate relationship.
Bleh, I shudder at the memory of it and at how foolish we were.

Talk to your husband, sort this out one way or another, you sound unhappy and you both deserve to not live in such a state.