You most certainly can have a devotion of a man you didn’t have children or first home with. I’d say my husband is devoted to me (and vice versa) and we don’t have kids together. Having said that, most men, especially the ones who already spent portion of their life taking care of a woman who chose not to contribute will not take on yet another helpless woman. Most men want equal partners and not a kept woman.

Well yes if you love someone, you’d take care of them but to what extend?

Most people aren’t interested in being martyrs and being life long care givers for no reason. I love my husband, but if he decides to spend his days lying on a couch watching you tube, he’d find himself on the street.

I’d say if a man wants to have stay at home wife (in absence of young kids at home), he’s free to do that. But I am yet to hear of any man willingly agreeing to it. Same as very few women will take on a random man (some would but it’s uncommon).

Especially if people have children from first marriage. I’d rather put money in a fund for my grandson than support random guy, even if he’s handsome.