Reddit? Are they the jury on these things? No one knows the situation better than you do Shaiguy, you and those directly involved and if you are confused then what could strangers possibly know? I’m sure there are folks there that can help you brainstorm ideas and potential explorations but if you are looking for who’s right or wrong or an answer as to the right thing to do next, strangers are not the place to go.
Is your heart telling you anything?
Have you tried talking to her about it? Your feelings around her behaviour and also ask for clarification or more details about why she felt the way she did?
That would be a good start.