Hugs, Scarlet... I'd be bothered by her saying that about other clients, too.

My ex-T said stuff like that a couple times, (like, "I spend lots of time reading your emails"). She had told me it was fine to send them, so don't act like a martyr for reading them... And Dr. T has said a few similar things in the past, too. Are we supposed to bow down to them, kiss their feet, and say "thank you so much, you make so many sacrifices for me"? They choose to do this as part of their job. If they don't want to do certain things, they just could choose not to.

L is choosing to do this for you. She shouldn't be expecting you to show all this gratitude. And shouldn't be comparing you to other clients (or mention them at all, especially if you have some agreement about that).

I'm sorry you're struggling so much right now...