I now see these being the distinctions but from what I understand unfortunately like Roget a person can experience a blurring of the two. While I hate the checking that comes with having to deal with locks and keys and I fear the possible legal consequences of acting on my thoughts by leaving inappropriate messages repeatedly it was the mention of this no win can't always be perfect moral bind and the anxiety and self loathing that it brings that caught my attention. I'm curious as to why it hasn't been addressed in therapy all these years - maybe I've kept it well hidden. Maybe when I break my own rules I'm to embarrassed to share so what really sends me to the edge isn't really known.