I am sorry you are suffering. I’d say people who break up via text are selfish and it’s nothing to do with who you are. They take the easy way out. They aren’t worth your time.

It’s recommended to take time off after a break up and don’t date or be intimate with anyone for year. Keep yourself busy with other things. It’s not easy but it’s a good strategy. It gives you time to reflect but also allows you to appreciate your own worth and your life apart of being someone’s girlfriend. Have you tried it? If not a year, maybe a few months to start?

This site is pretty safe and I don’t think you should worry about horny DMs. I think people correspond with likeminded friends in PMs. Now on occasion you might get strange PMs. I know I do but extremely rare and I just ignore them. But they aren’t of a horny nature. Lol

You can also report inappropriate messages to moderators. They take care of those very quickly. But it’s not a common occurrence, at least in my experience.