Thanks for your support. I kind of feel sorry for new wife and her kids. I just can't believe he wont be abusive to them too. They don't know each other very well. I'll pray for them.

Oh, I didn't mention that new wife looks a great deal like me. Kind of freaky.

He has already made bad comments to my kids about her girl. Then later says he wants to adopt her. He has a very low tolerance of kids. I am guessing he only wants to adopt her so he doesn't have to pay out as much in child support... yes, he thinks like that.. and usually tells me. Whatever, I wouldn't expect less from him.

I just don't feel like I'll ever get away from him. We separated years ago and he is still in search and destroy mode.

"I guess ultimately the only thing we can do is to be a good role model of taking good care of ourselves and to be a good parent. I had to learn to live in the present, find joy in whatever the day brings, even in the face of challenges. " -CedarS

Your right... Thanks cedar

I am getting married.... different thread... a bit nervous looking for advice