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Old Feb 13, 2025, 02:18 PM
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So glad your daughter has the kind of support you have given her. For me personally all my drive came from within me. My parents never gave encouragement or discouragement. They were basically neutral which was good since I had so much internal drive & competitiveness at least I didn't have to fight against being discouraged. I grew up in a mostly guys neighborhood so I wanted to keep up & be better when I could. Lol....playing with gitl stuff was boring. Served me well as I excelled in racquetball & played every day with the guys I worked with & competed & sometimes beat "A" players & always competed with the guys in tournaments & challenge courts.

I gave my daughter a chance in any sport she was interested in she loved doing the sports but hated competition so I never pushed her. Had her out downhill skiing at 2 1/2 years old & at 4, Jackson Hole ski school wasn't going to let her into the week long ski class until they saw her ski. She played basketball in HS. I was at most of her games to watch & cheer her on. Some is just giving them opportunities & let them decide what they want to excell in....no discouragement. My parents were clueless at what I was good at or not.....though my dad discouraged my getting a college degree....I just blew him off like normal. I think when I graduated with my Accounting & Computer Sci degree & had my job offer before graduation that MAYBE he was a little proud but never said anything. I always accomplished things for myself & didn't care what anyone thought because I did it for me, no one else. Sometimes that kind of drive is as strong or stronger than from outside encouragement though it is really nice to have the encouragement
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