How I interact with people depends on how well I think I know them (as well as we can ever truly know anyone, as there will always be things we don’t know, no matter how well we think we do).

It’s really difficult to comment on your situation as I’ve never met you or your boss in real life.

However, taking myself as an example, I do know I’m a hyper-sensitive person, and so I pick up what I know can be very subtle things - tone of voice, body language etc., and I know I’m prone to misinterpret these, or be overly sensitive. What you and I might interpret as a disparaging glare, others may not. Also, the question to ask yourself is this: is your mindset towards your boss so biased now (rightly or wrongly - this isn’t a criticism), that you are set to see your boss in a negative light whatever she does?

To answer your question though, I wouldn’t have interrupted your boss to tell her she was missing my 1:1. She’s your boss, it’s her job to know that. She’s also your boss, so she can change her priorities. It would be courteous to let you know, or have come to you and said “I’m really sorry I’m late for your 1:1, please bear with me there’s something I urgently need to talk to one of your colleagues about first”. That would still be poor, as it potentially implies you’re less important than someone else, but no one’s perfect. These things happen.

In terms of prodding her, I think I’d have avoided that unless I knew her really, really well.

But, I’m not you. I’m not in your situation. It’s hard to look at things objectively. From your previous posts, I’d say looking for a new role is best, but like all things in life there are opportunities to evaluate and learn from what you’ve experienced, and bear those things in mind when you do find another job.

Jeff.