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Originally Posted by NovaBlaze
How I interact with people depends on how well I think I know them (as well as we can ever truly know anyone, as there will always be things we don’t know, no matter how well we think we do).
It’s really difficult to comment on your situation as I’ve never met you or your boss in real life.
However, taking myself as an example, I do know I’m a hyper-sensitive person, and so I pick up what I know can be very subtle things - tone of voice, body language etc., and I know I’m prone to misinterpret these, or be overly sensitive. What you and I might interpret as a disparaging glare, others may not. Also, the question to ask yourself is this: is your mindset towards your boss so biased now (rightly or wrongly - this isn’t a criticism), that you are set to see your boss in a negative light whatever she does?
To answer your question though, I wouldn’t have interrupted your boss to tell her she was missing my 1:1. She’s your boss, it’s her job to know that. She’s also your boss, so she can change her priorities. It would be courteous to let you know, or have come to you and said “I’m really sorry I’m late for your 1:1, please bear with me there’s something I urgently need to talk to one of your colleagues about first”. That would still be poor, as it potentially implies you’re less important than someone else, but no one’s perfect. These things happen.
In terms of prodding her, I think I’d have avoided that unless I knew her really, really well.
But, I’m not you. I’m not in your situation. It’s hard to look at things objectively. From your previous posts, I’d say looking for a new role is best, but like all things in life there are opportunities to evaluate and learn from what you’ve experienced, and bear those things in mind when you do find another job.
Jeff.
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Thanks so much for your feedback and comments!! Much appreciated.
I wish I could recall exactly what I said to her when she was overlapping her conversation with a colleague with my 1:1 meeting. I may have asked her if she needed more time instead. I know I didn't say, hey, we have a meeting now. I said something different. Maybe it was rude of me and uncalled for. Maybe I did get inpatient. Perhaps I did.
Gently touching her arm I thought was OK, but it probably wasn't the best move. I can learn from these mistakes though.
I don't think I am being overly sensitive about her glaring at me over these things. I pick up on everything, and it was clear as day she didn't appreciate or like what I did. So be it. I rub her the wrong way.
And perhaps it's HER bias towards ME that is making her react that way. To me, these are minor infractions on my part, or should have been more minor. But she glared at me as though I had committed a major crime.