yeah, it is weird... i told him that i googled him (because i have been feeling a bit badly about that). so... after i sent the email i googled him again just to see what i figure he will find if he thinks to see what i probably found. and... i found some slightly different hits from what i did before (e.g., facebook). i'm not a member of facebook, but they do have basic info available for people who aren't signed up. and so i started looking at the profiles of people with his (unusual) last name and found someone who is rather unmistakably his brother!

i also found the year he graduated. i think... he is quite a bit older than i was thinking he was... i guessed anywhere from 35 to 45 but figured he was probably around the middle of that... now i'm thinking he must be between 45 and 50 or maybe a bit older, even... i guess that means that his wife is significantly younger (since she had a baby last year). no wonder he wasn't willing to comment on whether a 15 year age difference was too much in a romantic relationship lol.

i do feel that i was being a bit invasive... started out with good intentions of just checking that he hadn't been struck off the register or something... ended up being a bit nosey, really. oopsie.