My client is an adult who lives on her own. I’m a caregiver. Her mom has been texting me at all hours 8-11 at night for awhile. I told my supervisor about her & he told me legally he’d have to pay me if i l answer texts.

He said to not do it. I only replied to her to ease her worries as my client has some medical issues.

Anyways, she went overboard recently by not telling me that her daughter wouldn’t need me to come over ar the last minute until I asked her about things.

I simply asked her to please let me know ahead of time when I’m not needed as my managers can’t always schedule me with someone at the last minute. & I’m loosing money I need.

She made no apology to me. She got defensive & said, don’t ‘take’ things out on her daughter as she forgets stuff a lot & she reminded me that she’s disabled too.

I told her I didn’t take anything out on her & that I just watend to be notified in advance of these situations. I said that I told her daughter that nicely.

I don’t like how the mom acts l will upset her daughter just by asking to be treated with consideration!

I should’ve igored her constant texts. The daughter annoying too, but she doesn’t know any better.

The mom could’ve told me that. So I asked her to please inform me of things next time & she said OK.

My managers can’t always was informed but she didn’t bother telling me anything either. Then when I tried telling her to inform me of things asap too, she gaslit me & said that they don’t know when my client won’t need me. She literally just said the client told her that she wouldn’t be there on a certain day!

Why would she flat out lie to me like that? I didn’t correct her as I need to try to not upset the managers there as I need this job. It’s not like they’ll care or try to change anything probably.

She aslo said she’d have IT look into why I’m having issues at times with the work app but no one was ever contacted despite me reminding her that I need help still.

Recently I set a boundary that I had to enforce as that pest wouldn’t leave me alone. She was freaking out badly because her daughter didn’t return her texts right away.

She knew she was sick. She wasn’t so sick that she needed to go to the hospital, but with how she was acting, you’d think it was something serious. She had a bad stomachache I think, that’s it.

She was asleep. I told her that she was probably asleep & I was right.

I calmly but firmly gave her my schedule & I told her to only contact me when I’m on the clock. I told her what my supervisor said too.

She supposedly ‘understood’ everything. She then STILL pestered me to death not to long after that!

Either she was testing me or she didn’t care about my boundaries. I then reminded her again to remember to respect my boundaries & to contact a manager for any emergencies or for when I’m not on the clock.

She said she’d would then. Wth? Why did she do that? Rude!!! I doubt that my managers will say anything to her as they probably don’t want to upset a client.

And I’m nothing but an replaceable servant to them all, ugh! I should’ve never enabled this toxic boundary crossing behavior to begin with.

No more! She abused my kidness. She texted me as late as 11 too over silly things!

She is ridiculous! I’m surprised that she is letting her daughter live by herself as she acts like this lady can’t function without her.

So she finally stopped pestering me after I was more firm & said that I get tired & busy. I reminded her again to only contact me on the clock & she said that I made that clear ironically.

No apology at all. Rude! She acts like her daughter is made of glass since she’s sensitive. It’s to much.

Why do some people not respect boundaries? I’m not an on call servant, so I don’t understand why this lady is treating me like one.

She expects me to do other things too like paperwork & it’s to much. I never did this much for any client before.