Your husband sounds very immature. He also sounds like a drama addict, who can't cope with the slightest frustration. That's a tough marriage to be in. Basically, he's still a child, emotionally.

It's good to look at how you may have contributed to this scenario, not that I'm saying anything you did justifies him carrying on like a nut. Personally, if he wants to wash pots and pans before eating, I'ld leave him to it. Maybe he really needed a pat on the back for trying to be helpful. All the same, his dramatics were completely uncalled for. Something tells me he'll be back.

Your problem is to decide if this marriage is worth staying in. Maybe he has some good qualities that balance off his childishness. It would be good, if you both could sit down and talk things out calmly. I don't see a high likelihood of that being possible.

Next time he wants to run away, let him pack up his stuff by himself. He was probably hoping you'ld beg him not to go. Generally, I'ld say it's not wise to cater to someone who's throwing a tantrum.

I think angry people are often very insecure.