Hi RD, your daughter is very wise in that she doesn’t really mourn her mother but instead mourns not having the mother she needed. This is what you are also mourning. You have gained a lot of ground RD, but from time to time you too will grieve the wife you never had. You projected a lot about your wife that was never who she really was. You were stuck in a box and now you can see how unhealthy that box really was. You have to see the reality of the box to not only break free of it but to eventually look for a better box.