|
Projection is an interesting topic & why do some people project & others don't. I find I don't project because I look at people (including my parents & my ex) for their behaviors that actually were, not for what I wished they were & my level of tolerance has never been good even as a kid. I always saw people for who & what they were including my now ex before the wedding & wanted to cancel it. My mom on the other have projected him to be good....maybe because she thought he "would be" or had the "capability of being" something my dad wasn't even though in reality that I saw, he was just as bad if not worse in ways than my dad.
We need to know what it is in our thinking that causes us to "project" rather than look at people realistically for who & what they are. Is it "wishful thinking", is it not believing that anyone could be like that? We can't address our projection issues without knowing what causes it in our thinking in the first place....that is probably a big therapy topic in itself
__________________
Leo's favorite place was in the passenger seat of my truck. We went everywhere together like this.
Leo my soulmate will live in my heart FOREVER Nov 1, 2002 - Dec 16, 2018
|