I like to wash up before eating so there's way fewer dishes to do after enjoying dinner. So maybe (I'm only guessing) if you were persistently telling him not to do that, then you're essentially not accepting his ways, which in this case are pretty ordinary. It hurt him. He may have had enough. The bowl falling out of cupboard triggered his anger which up to that point, in this case, he had been keeping inside himself. I'm just putting that out there. Food for thought.

I am sorry about the whole thing.🙏