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Old Feb 22, 2025, 08:27 PM
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Originally Posted by Confused1991 View Post
Have you ever been in a relationship where you can literally feel a paun in your chests and then come the tears. How can one just switch off, i can not be hurting like this anymore. The smallest things set him off and living with his mom in the same house is not making it any easier. I can never do anything right, if i go and talk to him about it he looses his mind and gets angry, how does one just switch the emotions off just to survive.
Welcome! Emotional distress makes my guts swell. It's very painful for me but no tears. This is a work relationship.

The Buddhists would tell you that to suppress the emotion gives it more power. Their approach is to "sit with it" and let it disperse on its own. They make it sound so easy.

I thought of Grey Rock when I read your post quickly. That's because I thought your partner's mood was triggered by yours. But after a second reading, I'm not sure it fits in this situation.

Please try to find close neighbors you can connect with and activities outside the home. This in addition to the other suggestions.

And try to take very good care of yourself!
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