That's a shame, I know how hard it can be when your family doesn't approve. Even though you're an adult their opinion matters. I'm 33 and my Mom still has a strong hold on me. If you really need an honest opinion from someone. Don't ask someone who is in yours or his family. Ask someone who knows the both of you mutually "20/20 vision" (if there is such a person). Or maybe ask a councilor if you are compatible (I think there are councilors for pre-marriage (there are councilors for everything)) . A lot of churches will council you before you get married too, if you are that concerned about it. Good luck and don't let your first response discourage you, sometimes I think negative feed back will help you discover if this person is really for you and make your relationship stronger. Once your family sees how committed you are, they'll come around.