I'm am right there with you. Unfortunately my partner has not been diagnosed yet with BP. He recently went into a manic episode where a part of his mixed up thinking has been that I am a huge liar and slut. I am neither, I don't have the time, patience or creativity for either. His behaviour got so erratic and frightening that for my and my children's safety I had to get an order of protection against him (a temporary restraining order basically) which he has officially broken once and twice more that would not count in a court of law.
He hates me so much right now and that hurts a lot. I have a lot of people telling me to forget him and move on with my life. I love this man and hate what he's done to himself and us. I can seperate the love I have enough to recognize that he needs to be a part from me and his kids at this time but there will always be a background of concern and caring for him.
It's incredibly hard dealing with all this and kids and work (which I can't go to because I have no one for the kids) AND him hating me so much. If he only recognized he had a problem and got some help he would probably soon realize that I am not doing any of this to hurt him. He'd also realize that no matter what, even if we are not together, I will always love him. It's hard loving someone like this but all you can do is just keep telling yourself that your husband is sick. Have as much faith in yourself as you can muster that he doesn't realize what he's saying. I try to equate it to a child telling their parent that they hate them. This disease could take over completely if I wasn't there working so hard against it. It's not him that hates me, it is the disease and the disease is trying hard to hurt me. Unfortunately added to this I still have to hold him responsible for what his disease is doing but believe in yourself. It's hard but keep being a good person and then you'll know that what he says is untrue.