I’m a caregiver. I’ve only been a care giver for 6 months. I have never had a care giving job before. I work with high functioning autistic adults.

A client I had for 3-4 months recently dropped me as a care giver. I’m hurt as I thought that she liked me.

A manager told me that I overwhelmed her at times I made the mistake of telling her to much about myself. She did ask me a lot of questions though. Then the interest all of a sudden stopped.

That was weird. She’d get stressed out easily at times & start talking to herself a lot.

She had 4 shut downs & meltdowns since I was with her. One time she got so upset with me that she told me to get out of her place.

She assumed that I was judging her. That scared me. Now I’m with a new client who seems calmer, but I’m still worried that I might accidentally trigger her too.

What should I do & not do around autistic people? My former client got triggered by people yelling, telling her what to do & judging her.

She even yelled at at a friend on the phone that she didn’t think that she wanted to be friends with them anymore for disagreeing with her about something.

She was a bit critical & judgmental at times too. She’d ask me personal & inappropriate questions about my sex life. I told her that I don’t want to talk about that as it’s personal.

She tried telling me what to do, what to eat, that I shouldn’t spend my money on stuff & she complained about me puttIng on makeup at work for touch ups too as she said no one else did that, that I ‘smelled like b.o’ when I was near her, told me how to drive, etc…

She overwhelmed me too. Are a lot of autistic people like that or not?

Do autistic people generally try to control other people or not?

The other clients that I had were OK. Most of them stayed in their room usually.

I read about some stuff on here, but I’d like to get advice & insight from autstuc people or people who work with autistic people.