Thank you. To answer the question about whether he's always been this way, that is sort of a multi-part or multi-stage answer. He's always been a slob and he's always been an arrogant, know-it-all *** whom no one could tell anything. Yet he has somehow managed to endear some of the folks he has worked with to him.

It was one of these friends whom I worked with to finally get my brother to the ER five weeks ago. He was more subdued when they were talking about likely partial leg amputation, but now he's feeling better physically and they have ruled out amputation at least for now, and he's becoming a pain in the *** again. He makes it very difficult to even want to try to help him. I've already told him a couple of times if you make this too hard, I'm just going to put all of your stuff that I'm trying to sell into storage and drop you at your house in whatever stage we've gotten to in cleaning it up, with all the documents where I've been trying to get your finances straightened out, and then you can figure it out on your own, and you can figure out how to pay your bills on your own with no freaking money.

He's 60 YO. Our mother is 81. He has been pathetically whining since the night we took him to the ER that this happened because she refused to do things for him, and I have very energetically called him on that particular BS. But as I said--no one tells him ANYTHING. That holds especially true for me.

APS declined to investigate, and whatever psych resources were involved by the hospital said there isn't a psych issue. (1) He's very manipulative; and (2) it seems to be a very limited evaluation that he denies being suicidal and he denies being depressed, therefore no psych issue.

Now the hospital is talking about discharging him and sending him home tomorrow, but his house is not livable yet. There just has been an incredible amount to do, he has very little money to work with, and both our mom and I refuse to get in too deep financially with him. Or I should say, any deeper than she already is with him after 40 years of enabling him by fixing his car when it broke down, etc.

But at some point I will walk away and let him do whatever he will stupidly do, for the sake of my marriage and my own sanity.