PBG, I had a health scare a while back. Because of confidentiality, L wasn’t really allowed to get support for herself with my news. So she asked me if she could specifically talk to her work partner. I agreed because it’s not fair for her to have to hold something and suffer. I didn’t agree for anyone else to know. Just him.

Maybe ask your spouse if you can talk to a specific person. Explain that you respect that it’s her news, but you need support too. And ask is there any room for compromising. Maybe something along those lines might help.