Therapists do get to make up their own rules. I think my current therapist, L, is like that. We haven’t discussed it much because we don’t plan on ending anytime soon and even if we did I could always come back, but as a client. I can’t meet her outside of the therapeutic relationship ever. I will be fighting her on this later down the line.

Anyways, it sucks, I feel for you, AND it’s her rules. She should have explained them to you before your closure sessions.

Can you maybe ask for an update session? Or to have another closure session? Where you actually pay for the hour. Maybe then you can see her one last time.

Or if you simply want to update her, can you ask to email her? I do that with my other therapist. I would email her updates once a month.