I can see myself in it when you say, maybe L is doing this for herself. I have broached that topicc to my last two or 3 ts and let me tell you - no wait, to all my ts - boy they shut me down hard and fast on that one. That is really crossing a boundary. That is slamming your richard in a chest of drawers. I would assume! Not necessarily a thing to avoid. A thing to confront in yourself so you can move on.