I’m sorry to hear you haven’t been able to adopt this particular cat on this occasion. I can understand your disappointment.

In your initial post you described her behaviour as “weird”, and called her a “weirdo”. I must confess this made me want to leap to the current owner’s defence. They are the one with prime responsibility for ensuring the cat is placed safely. This isn’t to say that you won’t be a perfect owner, I’m sure you would be, but it seems there has been a breakdown in communication between you, and I think the onus is on you, not the owner, to deal with that appropriately.

Ive had really bad periods of mental health over the years, and had the label “weirdo” thrown at me on many occasions. I’m not sure that was the right approach with your initial post, if you were seeking sympathy for your situation.

I hope you’re successful in finding a cat soon, and perhaps be clearer in your communication with the next owner.

Jeff.