Foolish - that is, by far, the nicest thing that anyone has ever said to me. Thanks. I know he'd do the same for me, so that's some comfort. I also know that no matter how much I or anyone else could criticize him, it's nowhere close to how much he is criticizing himself right now, and that makes me so sad...

But I still don't know what to do to prevent myself from going bizerk

Ian is going to be a-ok!