I am on the same end your wife is. it is sad that no matter how much either of us love our spouses it doesn't seem to be enough. I would love to have that hot passion back in my marriage too but I think maybe part of it for the women is seeing too much television. we see the passion in soap operas and love stories and we crave that. I know I do but last week I realized that is not I repeat NOT real life. yes we start out that way but it doesn't last, sadly. I hope we all realize that is just not real.
I feel your saddness and frustration. please try to open up and talk to her. don't let it split you up.