I've had to deal with a lot of narcissists. The thing to remember is that they are children. Don't give them adult status. Don't take anything they say seriously because they're not telling the truth. Don't expect them to handle any responsibilities. They don't see themselves as having any responsibilities. Those are for grownups like you. And they don't like having to come to you and ask for something. They always want you to think you're coming to them on their turf and needing their cooperation. If she wants visitation, make her show up at a designated time and place.