To reptileinyourhead: I don’t have options. It’s just waiting out our lives, hoping I outlive him. I am trying to focus on myself, get healthy and in shape. I do not have a problem cheating on him at this point, if I were ever to become desirable again. We have not been intimate for a long time. I don’t care if he cheats either. God help any woman who ever gets involved with him. The other day he actually did the dishes- I could not believe it. I was so happy - I gave him the biggest hardest sexiest kiss I could - fogged up his glasses. He still went to sleep in his lair, with the dog…I can do nothing to get him to desire me anymore, I am certain.