I think I want to take a second to expand on what I mean on losing self-awareness in the moment. I think our emotions our so big that we can get lost in them, but once the dust settles and that BPD lens isn't so drastically strong, yeah, we can have self-awareness, sometimes painfully-so. Maybe because for us self-awareness can be so painful given what the big emotions can cause, some "choose" to turn a blind eye (whether aware of that or not) and maybe that is what Dr. Fox has observed. Again, just a shot in the dark from someone with BPD that's been in a lot of inpatient and group settings with other BPD folks.

I'm not sure if you've come across this "maybe BPD--maybe all personality disorders--are C-PTSD (which isn't in the DSM even but in the ICD), maybe some are misdiagnosed as one or the other" argument, but of the people who believe CPTSD and BPD/other PDs are different, they think one of the differences between the two is that people with CPTSD tend more towards avoidance and disconnection when it comes to people.