My long time therapist of 17 years has moved away. It was abrupt, but that was a possibility for the last few years. She went to part time, with the understanding that if her husband needed her at home, she would stop. I moved away and we did phone sessions for a year. When I moved back she no longer had an office and she was seeing a limited number of clients in her home, if I was interested in doing that. I was and we did that for 2 and a half years. It was very special to me to have that opportunity. Several times she told me that they might need to move to Assisted Living, and reminded it might be abrupt. And she added that it would not be abandonment. I knew they had toured some facilities. I knew my time with her was now limited. Although I denied it really, because I enjoyed seeing her so much. I love her SO much. She has been there for me consistently, kindly, and so caring, although it took me years to see all that. I always texted her to 'confirm' (remind her) that my appointment was the next day and if that was not ok to let me know. Last week she replied Yes it was ok. And she wanted to give me a heads up that they were having to move to another state, and apologized for the suddenness. So the next day was my last session. I wasn't prepared for it to be my last session. I was crushed. I will be calling her in a few weeks for a phone session and to sort out what she wrote in that text 'keeping in touch' and 'what to do about therapy. I hope we can keep in touch/do therapy. I don't know what's going to happen though. She's gone off to live out the days of her life, do something new, and she is looking forward to making new friends. I am left behind, feeling alone and lost. I don't know what to do without her in my life. She walked me out to my car in her driveway as usual, and said to me when I was in the car, "You're an important person in my life". Her last words to me. How wonderful it was that to hear that. How do I stop crying all the time; we haven't even had that call yet?haven't even had that call yet?
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