Night shifts are brutal for people’s health and family situations. My husband worked night shifts for years. Then he did it again few times out of necessity. The only positive about night shift was large shift deferential. It was significant. It paid so much more.

Other than that there is nothing good about it. Well I know people who like it. Some of my husbands coworkers do. He also feels everyone has to do it at some point. But as people get older it’s becoming too much, so it’s someone else’s turn

Having said that, I wouldn’t limit what I do when h sleeps or try to figure out time he’d get up. I did what I wanted in the house or out of the house. I meant I’d not do anything too loud in the house but other than that I am not sure why you must limit yourself or feel guilty. If he’s sleeping, no need to stay in bed for hours waiting or sit in the house unable to leave. Get up and do your thing.

I understand wanting to spend time with him but you can’t drive yourself ragged over trying to fit your life into his schedule. It sounds that he’s contributing to you feeling guilty by making negative comments

How’s he otherwise as a husband? Outside of sleep schedule issue?