Erm, yes, it is him. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be out of the house. Your husband is projecting his issues onto you, and making you feel like the 'bag guy'.

His irrational need of wanting you to stay in the house is what is not 'normal'.

You are not doing anything wrong. He is stopping you doing what you want. So, go ahead with the 'execution' otherwise he will keep holding you hostage to *his* needs or insecurities.