Hello immature37, welcome to PC.

I can’t put it any better than 50guy but I’d like to give you a woman’s perspective. Sure a fling would be fun, and I’m sure that your wife has had or will have these thoughts at some point in your marriage. Surely you know that you’re not the only one that finds your wife attractive. There is someone out there right now looking at your wife, thinking the same thing about her that you are thinking about these other women.

What stops any of us is that relationships are very fragile things, you make a trade a lifetime together for momentary thrill. Once you break that trust for mere lust, it will be very difficult if not impossible to get back. She will find out, they always do.

As concerned mentioned once you scratch that itch, you’ll do it again. Things will get in a rut at home and suddenly that “fling” is better than what you have at home, because it’s make believe, not reality. No responsibilities, no mortgage, no arguments about whose turn it is to unload the dishwasher or take the kids to soccer.

50guy mentioned diseases (and since you are only slightly younger than myself I find it hard to believe that you would have risked your health and had those kinds of flings in college with the information of diseases out there) but what about fathering a child out there? From personal experience no form of birth control is 100%. Condoms break and I have 15 year old twins to (and hubby has more scars) prove that vasectomies done in the late 80s early 90s were not always permanent (and yes he did the lab work after surgery and had a zero count at that time).

Could you look your wife in the eye knowing that you’ve disrespected her in this way? How would you feel if someone treated your daughter in this manner? Your mother? Do your marriage vows really mean that little to you?