So, I met a new man a week ago through friends at a dinner and we've been texting a lot. He's a twice over widower. He was married and divorced once, then practically married again and widowed both times. His first wife died after they had separated and divorced. His second near wife had five kids that he is still close to now.

Last night we talked on the phone for almost 2 hours non-stop. It was a good conversation. It turns out we have a lot in common - a TON actually. I am not sure of his age, but I think we're around a similar age.

He was very gentlemanly the night we met since my ex husband was at the music venue and this man was protective of me and watching out for me. I feel a sense of safety so far around him, but he hasn't earned my trust yet and we're not dating.

He did ask me out the night we met, and I declined saying I am not dating right now. He also smokes cigs, which is now a dealbreaker for me, but he says he is quitting for good on April 20th.

We shall see - the jury is still out and probably for a while until I decide I can trust him. There's so much more that is necessary for me in order to be pulled into dating someone again. And he's got to be a non-smoker or else I may slip back into smoking again.

I've read that you shouldn't give it all out in the beginning with a new person, but I told him a lot about myself on the phone last night. How else is he going to get to know me, unless I tell him about myself and vice versa? It was interesting conversation too.

So, back to the office today and I am dreading it, like usual. Ugghhhhhhhhhhhhh.