How can I tell if someone else is genuinely a shyt person or if they’re good for my “cheesecake part” but the “cherry sauce” part is telling me they’re (the third party) trying to convince me that everything I think is wrong and saying everything I’m doing “looks good” out loud while they’re waiting for me to screw everything up thinking of all the bodies of wasted potential, I definitely have the most bang per buck?

Is there a way to focus on the cheesecake, not the cherry filling, and accurately figure out what’s going on with the external world (or at least come to a somewhat consistent conclusion)?