Thanks, amandalouise. I always appreciate your thoughtful explanations.

I wasnt making a connection between splitting and introjects, but now i see one. To me, though, they take place in two different like "time zones". Splitting happens in the present, with us thinking the other person is either all good or all bad.

Introject stuff is more self-psychology (not to be confused with Hey i can be my own dr!, but rather, psychological structures of the self, such as a good introject, an evil introject, or what Freud called ego id and superego?). But again, we cant stand to think of the parent as bad, so we kind of split that badness INTO ourselves. I remember it was SOOO hard for me to grasp this concept. I think it is the psychological basis for the idea "and after all that, I turned out exactly like my own parents."

THEN we grow up to be people who split their ts!

Thanks again.