Its paradoxical, isnt it. Show me you care for me and i will not be able to tolerate it. I know its a gd trick. You ever watch those yt videos where the vet sits in the little cubicle with the "bad dog" for like a week until a miracle happens? The pit bull next door to my mother's recognized me as a dog in need of care and attention. Many - well, not a lot, but enough! - misc dogs have. Like THEY are gentle with ME.