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Apr 23, 2025, 10:32 AM
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Member Since: Aug 2013
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Hi SPG, I failed to notice your comment on my comment had a comment of laughing smiliies. Got me. Message to self: slow down and look for the tells.
Caddy's phrase: do it wholeheartedly for Spirit, has been rolling around me head. So, like I do, I google searched it, and found an interesting blog. Patrick Buggy riffed on Brené Brown's 10 Guideposts for wholehearted living.
Guidepost 1: Cultivating Authenticity and Letting Go of What Other People Think
Put Guidepost 1 Into Practice:
A. Identify who you are when you’re at your best. Make a list. (“When I’m at my best, I am ______.”) Then, make it a habit to show up in that way. Celebrate your best moments with a “That’s like me!”
B. Notice when you’re trying to please others, or get caught in worrying about what others think. Note these moments with a “Needs work” and shift back to your authentic self.
As I have set aside today for dealing with the condomess, I'll get many moments to practice. Showing up at my best is putting what other owners, and the crisis vendor of the moment, are doing or not doing aside, focus on only the pieces I want to take up today, do them with a smile (yuck, do I have to?), and celebrate my progress. Accept I may not get it all done.
As to pleasing others, I've been gradually stripping that out of my thinking and behaving. I'm more succinct and direct (while reining my "blunt" side.) I want no misunderstanding about what I think and feel about being people getting a free ride off my efforts. As most of today is solo time, I'll be swatting my grumbling away as I wholeheartedly [we'll see] do the other chores.
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