So...

I emailed my stbx wife two months ago. I was pretty ticked off at the time.

The kids had divulged stuff to me in family counselling about manipulative things she'd done to them, such as telling them over 10 years ago that she wanted to divorce me, that she was taking the youngest and if the oldest didn't do what she said he'd never see his younger sibling again.

So, I said in my email to her..... "The kids have divulged stuff in counselling that I never knew. The kids told me you threatened divorce to them since they were little and threatened to separate them if they didn't go with you. You were an abusive and neglectful spouse and partner."

Last night I get an email reply that says,

"You may way want to look at yourself and question your upbringing."

So... That is how much truth and reality reached her.

I think I have my answer as to what the outcome will be if I tell her, and everyone around her, off.

RDMercer