I need a fresh start; my whole family does. So I'm taking inspiration from @Have Hope...

Cast of Characters...

Me...

• I'm in my 60s, married.
• Just got laid off from a design job of a very specific obscure type of technology.
• Still owe mortgage and daughter's student loan.
• I like the town I live in, but would prefer living somewhere remote
• I'm so very VERY tired of...
  • Medical insurance & bills
  • fast-paced work environments that need energetic, self-starters, multi-taskers
  • acting normal

Wife (DW)

• has bizarre unpredictable medical issues.
• has anxiety, lacks self-regulation
• hates the town we live in; wants "good" neighbors
• actively hates her dead mother -- blames her for everything
• lost her disability case, but is clearly disabled & somewhat homebound

Daughter (DD)

• lives halfway across the country...
• with a needy partner
• doesn't like where she lives
• Autism, ADHD, struggles with ADL

Daughter's Partner (DP)

• Needy, mentally-ill, (schizo)
• Meds cause that tardive thing
• trans, possibly taking hormones
• "disowned" by parents

Wife Best Female Friend (FF)

• Wonderful person
• lives one non-stop flight away

Wife Best Male Friend (MF)

• Wonderful person
• lives a few towns away

Cat

• needy, scared & loves only my wife
• loner cat, can't have another
• "gift" from evil MIL