Some background, my family tends to use the few things I say and do against me. They hold on to things and fire them back at me when it's most hurtful to me. All of them have done it over the years. It's especially hurtful when my kids do it, and when they do it, they're really effective.

Just recently one of my kids said I often play the victim.

He and my wife said, separately, that I seem to have a problem with them.

They also said things are going great these days, I seem to be much better. I revealed they think that because I've been silent and hiding 90% of what's actually happening and it's evidence that they only want silence and appropriate behavior.

So I finally came out and said it - if I'm such a problem, I won't stay where I'm not wanted. Tell me to go and I'll leave.

You'd think that would result in a discussion, right? Not 10 minutes later, she's fast asleep. That's really telling.